May 3, 2006

Ten Commandments for Peace of Mind

- unknown author -

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked
Most of us create our own problems by interfering
too often in others' affairs. We do so because
somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way
is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic
and those who do not conform to our thinking must
be criticized and steered to the right direction,
our direction. This thinking denies the existence
of individuality; each one of us has created in a
unique way and no two human beings can think or
act in exactly the same way.

2. Forgive And Forget
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We
often develop ill feelings inside our heart for
the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture
grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood
pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but
nourishing of grievance goes on forever by
constantly remembering it. Get over this bad
habit. Believe in the justice of God. Let Him
judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is
too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,
Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving
and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom
praise anybody without selfish motives. They may
praise you today because you are in power, but no
sooner than you are powerless, they will forget
your achievement and will start finding faults in
you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving
for their recognition? Their recognition is not
worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically
and sincerely and leave the rest to God.

4. Do Not Be Jealous
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb
our peace of mind. You know that you work harder
than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes
they get promotions; you do not. You started a
business several years ago, but you are not as
successful as your neighbor whose business is only
one year old. There are several examples like
these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No.
If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the
world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no
one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by
blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will
not get you anywhere; it will only take away your
peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment
If you try to change the environment
single-handedly, the chances are you will fail.
Instead, change yourself to suit your environment.
As you do this, even the environment, which has
been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change
and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into
an advantage. Every day we face numerous
inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and
accidents that are beyond our control. If we
cannot control them or change them, we must learn
to put up with these things. We must learn to
endure them cheerfully thinking, "God wills it so,
so be it." God's plan is beyond our comprehension.
Believe in it and you will gain in terms of
patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite off More Than You Can Chew
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We
often tend to take more responsibilities than we
are capable of carrying out. This is done to
satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take
on additional loads that may create more worries?
You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your
external activities. Reduce your material
engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce
those thoughts in your mind that make you
restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater
peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of
disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of
peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If
you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday,
your mind will tend to become peaceful during the
remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind
will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You
would benefit by gradually increasing the period
of daily mediation. You may think that this will
interfere with your daily work. On the contrary,
this will increase your efficiency and you will be
able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave the Mind Vacant
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil
actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind
occupied in something positive, something
worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something
that holds your interest. You must decide what you
value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby,
like social work or temple work, may not always
earn you more money, but you will have a sense of
fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are
resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy
reading or mental exercising.

10. Do Not Procrastinate and Never Regret
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should
I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years
may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You
can never plan enough because you can never
anticipate all future happenings. Value your time
and do the things that need to be done. It does
not matter if you fail the first time. You can
learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time.

Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing.
Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over
the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was
destined to happen only that way. Take it as the
Will of God. You do not have the power to alter
the course of God's Will. Why cry over spilt milk?

"Do not seek happiness in the grand or complex...
instead find joy in the simple and unnoticed."
P.E.P. de Leon

This one's for someone who eases my mind. Thank
you for always being there.

(orginally posted by apocalypse)

-i just grabbed this from my friend's (ate joan) post in friendster and i loved it. people still do post sensibly. thank god for them :)